This is me, the old me, the person that I am now, the person that I have become.  I’m a mother of three, and happy about it too!!!! But on this blog I have decided to just be a person, a woman, a friend, a Filipino and not be a mom.  I’ll have another blog for that too. Motherhood is a whole new different world for me, and I want to separate just on a blog the part of me that is a mom, and the part of me that is just me. 

The Things I have learned along the way! (written 11 years ago)

These are the things that I have learned along the way, my thoughts on living. It was written at a time when I was at the lowest point in my life.  Some of the things here, I still believe in, some, not as much anymore, and some I totally don’t believe in anymore.

1. On doing good, giving and receiving

Think not of what others can do for you, but of what you can do for others.  Think not of of the bad others did to you, but of the good they have brought you. Think no more of the good you have done once you have done it, but think of what more you can do.  Think not of what you will receive, but of what you can give.  But once you received, be thankful.  Think no more of what you have given, but of what more you can give.

2.  On Counting Your Blessings 

Be thankful for what you have and do not cry over the things you do not have. Count your blessings instead of your sufferings.  Be thankful that you have shoes on your feet, others have no feet. Be thankful that you have a roof above your head, others live on the street. Do not yearn for expensive things and do not worry about material things, instead make the most of what you have.  Do not worry for the morrow, God will always provide.

3. On judging others 

Remember what is essential is invisible to the eye. Look beyond the surface and try to see what is inside. Do not judge others, for who are you to judge? There’s always a reason for everything. And everyone has a reason for doing things. Do not be content with what you see, because things are not always what they seem, always try to understand why.  There are two sides of a coin, two sides of a story. Hear first before both sides before you judge, because if you do not do so, you may do injustice to others.

4.  When someone hurt you

Remember; do not do unto others what you do not want others to do to you. And if others have hurt you and brought you pain, learn to forgive. Pray not for his downfall, pray not for bad things to befall him, instead pray for peace and forgiveness. Pray that he gets what he truly deserves, and only God knows what he truly deserves. And when you seek happiness,take care that you do not step on somebody else’s toes along the way.  Always think of how you will feel when somebody else step on your toes.  It is not bad to seek happiness. What is bad is finding it and having it out of the expense of others.  How could you be totally happy knowing that someone is suffering because of you.  Remember that everything that you do comes back to you.

5.   On Living

Live not only for yourself , but for others. Life life to the fullest. Do not limit yourself, instead explore. Do not live your life depending on one person alone for your happiness.  Do not get hung up on one guy alone, he is not the reason for your existence, HE is. Remember that life is what we make it and happiness is a state of mind. Our life is our own and our own alone.  When you suffer, look into the sufferings of others.  There are other people who suffer more than you do.  There are other people who need you more. Life is what we make it and how we live it.

 6.  On Loving

“To receive love, it must be given with no thoughts of its return.  To love for fulfillment, satisfaction, and pride is no love. To love unselfishly is its own reward.” – Og Mandino

When you love, do not love for a reason. For if you love for a reason, you do not love at all. Love simly for the sake of loving . When you love you should simply love without knowing why.  No “becauses”, no “ifs”, no “buts”.  LOve is unconditional, love is acceptance.  The greatest love are those that withstand time, language, differences, and race.  You should not love for what others can give you, or what others can make you.  You should not love for  what you like, you simply love because you do. 

When you love someone, you learn to let go. You think not of your own happiness but of his. When you love someone you set him free. You give him freedom however much it hurts.  And you pray that he’ll find happiness and that he gets only the best. 

When someone leaves you, you do not die.  You simply go on living, and try to be the best that you can be.  You do not fight for something that is not worth fighting for.  You do not kill yourself over someone who do not love you at all. There are only a few things worth dying  for : your faith in God, your country, your family, your principles and the people you know will die for you too. And an erstwhile or an unfaithful lover is not one of them.